What We Are Reading Today: ‘How to Be Enough’

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Updated 24 February 2025
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What We Are Reading Today: ‘How to Be Enough’

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  • Hendriksen makes clear that self-acceptance is not innate but a skill honed through daily practice

Author: Ellen Hendriksen

This 2025 self-help book, “How to Be Enough,” by clinical psychologist Ellen Hendriksen, is a lifeline for anyone shackled by self-criticism or the relentless pursuit of perfection.

Hendriksen attempts to counter the toxic belief that achievement defines worth, arguing that perfectionism is less a virtue than an armor against vulnerability, and one that breeds anxiety and burnout.

Hendriksen’s approach is both clinical and deeply human. She weaves psychological research with raw, relatable stories — from high-achievers crumbling under self-imposed pressure to everyday struggles with inadequacy.

Her solution is what she terms “radical self-compassion” or treating oneself with the kindness of a close friend, especially in moments of failure.

Anchored by cognitive-behavioral techniques, Hendriksen advises readers to challenge distorted thoughts including catastrophizing or all-or-nothing thinking.

Mindfulness practices anchor individuals in the present, while realistic, process-driven goals replace the tyranny of unattainable outcomes, Hendriksen argues.

Hendriksen also confronts societal pressures — from social media comparisons to workplace demands — urging readers to redefine success on their own terms.

Practical exercises include journaling to track self-critical narratives, gratitude practices to shift focus from lack to abundance, and gradual exposure to feared scenarios to build resilience.

Hendriksen makes clear that self-acceptance is not innate but a skill honed through daily practice.

But here is the rub: Some may find the exercises daunting. Can journaling truly silence decades of self-doubt? Does “good enough” resonate in a world obsessed with excellence?

Hendriksen acknowledges the tension, offering no quick fixes but a promise: Liberation lies not in flawlessness, but in embracing imperfection.

Her prose is empathetic, almost conversational and the book’s strength is its unflinching honesty. It does not sugarcoat the work required but reframes it as a journey toward authenticity.

In the end, Hendriksen leaves us with a question: What if “enough” is not a ceiling but a foundation? By releasing the grip on perfection, readers may find not just peace, but the courage to live boldly — flaws and all.

Hendriksen’s “How to Be Enough” is a manifesto for the self-critical, a roadmap from exhaustion to empowerment.

It does not promise enlightenment but something better: a path to breathe freely in a world that demands you never stop running.

 


What We Are Reading Today: Worlds of Unfreedom by Roquinaldo Ferreira

What We Are Reading Today: Worlds of Unfreedom by Roquinaldo Ferreira
Updated 09 June 2025
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What We Are Reading Today: Worlds of Unfreedom by Roquinaldo Ferreira

What We Are Reading Today: Worlds of Unfreedom by Roquinaldo Ferreira

In “Worlds of Unfreedom,” Roquinaldo Ferreira recasts West Central Africa as a key battleground in the struggle to abolish the transatlantic slave trade between the 1830s and the 1860s.

Ferreira foregrounds the experiences and agency of enslaved Africans, challenging Eurocentric narratives that marginalize African participation in abolition efforts.

Drawing on archival research, he shows how enslaved people resisted the oppressive systems that sought to commodify their lives. He integrates microhistorical analysis with broader world history.


What We Are Reading Today: ‘The Mind of a Bee’ by Lars Chittka

What We Are Reading Today: ‘The Mind of a Bee’ by Lars Chittka
Updated 08 June 2025
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What We Are Reading Today: ‘The Mind of a Bee’ by Lars Chittka

What We Are Reading Today: ‘The Mind of a Bee’ by Lars Chittka

Most of us are aware of the hive mind—the power of bees as an amazing collective. But do we know how uniquely intelligent bees are as individuals?

In “The Mind of a Bee,” Lars Chittka draws from decades of research, including his own pioneering work, to argue that bees have remarkable cognitive abilities.

He shows that they are profoundly smart, have distinct personalities, can recognize flowers and human faces, exhibit basic emotions, count, use simple tools, solve problems, and learn by observing others. They may even possess consciousness.


Petals and thorns: India’s Booker prize author Banu Mushtaq

Petals and thorns: India’s Booker prize author Banu Mushtaq
Updated 08 June 2025
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Petals and thorns: India’s Booker prize author Banu Mushtaq

Petals and thorns: India’s Booker prize author Banu Mushtaq
  • Mushtaq won the coveted literature prize as the first author writing in Kannada — an Indian regional language
  • As a young girl worried about her future, she said she started writing to improve her “chances of marriage”

HASSAN, India: All writers draw on their experience, whether consciously or not, says Indian author Banu Mushtaq — including the titular tale of attempted self-immolation in her International Booker Prize-winning short story collection.
Mushtaq, who won the coveted literature prize as the first author writing in Kannada — an Indian regional language — said the author’s responsibility is to reflect the truth.
“You cannot simply write describing a rose,” said the 77-year-old, who is also a lawyer and activist.
“You cannot say it has got such a fragrance, such petals, such color. You have to write about the thorns also. It is your responsibility, and you have to do it.”
Her book “Heart Lamp,” a collection of 12 powerful short stories, is also her first book translated into English, with the prize shared with her translator Deepa Bhasthi.
Critics praised the collection for its dry and gentle humor, and its searing commentary on the patriarchy, caste and religion.
Mushtaq has carved an alternative path in life, challenging societal restrictions and perceptions.
As a young girl worried about her future, she said she started writing to improve her “chances of marriage.”
Born into a Muslim family in 1948, she studied in Kannada, which is spoken mostly in India’s southern Karnataka state by around 43 million people, rather than Urdu, the language of Islamic texts in India and which most Muslim girls learnt.
She attended college, and worked as a journalist and also as a high school teacher.

Constricted life

But after marrying for love, Mushtaq found her life constricted.
“I was not allowed to have any intellectual activities. I was not allowed to write,” she said.
“I was in that vacuum. That harmed me.”
She recounted how as a young mother aged around 27 with possible postpartum depression, and ground down by domestic life, had doused petrol on herself and on the “spur of a moment” readied to set herself on fire.
Her husband rushed to her with their three-month-old daughter.
“He took the baby and put her on my feet, and he drew my attention to her and he hugged me, and he stopped me,” Mushtaq told AFP.
The experience is nearly mirrored in her book — in its case, the protagonist is stopped by her daughter.
“People get confused that it might be my life,” the writer said.
Explaining that while not her exact story, “consciously or subconsciously, something of the author, it reflects in her or his writing.”
Books line the walls in Mushtaq’s home, in the small southern Indian town of Hassan.
Her many awards and certificates — including a replica of the Booker prize she won in London in May — are also on display.
She joked that she was born to write — at least that is what a Hindu astrological birth chart said about her future.
“I don’t know how it was there, but I have seen the birth chart,” Mushtaq said with a laugh, speaking in English.
The award has changed her life “in a positive way,” she added, while noting the fame has been a little overwhelming.
“I am not against the people, I love people,” she said referring to the stream of visitors she gets to her home.
“But with this, a lot of prominence is given to me, and I don’t have any time for writing. I feel something odd... Writing gives me a lot of pleasure, a lot of relief.”

‘The writer is always pro-people’
Mushtaq’s body of work spans six short story collections, an essay collection and poetry.
The stories in “Heart Lamp” were chosen from the six short story collections, dating back to 1990.
The Booker jury hailed her characters — from spirited grandmothers to bumbling religious clerics — as “astonishing portraits of survival and resilience.”
The stories portray Muslim women going through terrible experiences, including domestic violence, the death of children and extramarital affairs.
Mushtaq said that while the main characters in her books are all Muslim women, the issues are universal.
“They (women) suffer this type of suppression and this type of exploitation, this type of patriarchy everywhere,” she said. “A woman is a woman, all over the world.”
While accepting that even the people for whom she writes may not like her work, Mushtaq said she remained dedicated to providing wider truths.
“I have to say what is necessary for the society,” she said.
“The writer is always pro-people... With the people, and for the people.”


What We Are Reading Today: ‘And Every Morning the Way Home Gets Longer and Longer’

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Updated 07 June 2025
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What We Are Reading Today: ‘And Every Morning the Way Home Gets Longer and Longer’

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  • Backman transforms personal pain into collective catharsis

Author: Fredrik Backman

Fredrik Backman captures the unraveling of a mind with devastating tenderness in his novella “And Every Morning the Way Home Gets Longer and Longer.”

This spare yet monumental novella, published in 2016, traces dementia’s heartbreak through intimate dialogues between a grandfather and grandson. Its power lies not in tragedy, but in love’s fierce endurance against oblivion.  

Grandpa is trapped in a shrinking mental town square. He navigates fragmented conversations with grandson Noah (whom he refers to as Noahnoah), clutches vanishing memories, and wrestles with unspoken tensions with his son, Ted. All while preparing for the final goodbye — to others and himself.

The shrinking square is dementia’s cruel architecture made visceral. Yet within his exchanges with his grandson, luminous defiance shines. Gentle jokes. Shared secrets. Proof that love outruns oblivion.

Backman’s triumph is avoiding sentimentality. No manipulative tears here, just raw honesty: Grandpa’s panic when words fail, Ted’s helpless anger, Noahnoah’s childhood wisdom becoming the family’s compass. Generational bonds offer lifelines. Grandpa lives in the stories, not his head.

The resonance is universal. Readers who are familiar with dementia’s path will recognize the misplaced keys, the names that vanish, the sudden foreignness of familiar rooms. Backman transforms personal pain into collective catharsis.

A minor flaw surfaces though: Ted’s perspective aches for deeper exploration. His pain lingers tantalizingly unresolved.

My final verdict is that one must devour this in one sitting. Tissues mandatory. For anyone who loves, or has loved, someone slipping away, this story can become an anchor.

 


What We Are Reading Today: The Earth Transformed

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Updated 07 June 2025
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What We Are Reading Today: The Earth Transformed

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  • Frankopan shows that when past empires failed to act sustainably, they were met with catastrophe

Author: Peter Frankopan

"The Earth Transformed" reveals how climate change has dramatically shaped the development — and demise — of civilizations across time.
Peter Frankopan argues that nature has always played a fundamental role in the writing of history.

Frankopan shows that when past empires failed to act sustainably, they were met with catastrophe. Blending brilliant historical writing and cutting-edge scientific research, the book will radically reframe the way we look at the world and our future.